Unlike you, with your finale-then-snoring, most women are capable of more than one orgasm during the same sex session. We tend to experience increasing pleasure with each wave, and, unlike men, don’t need a ‘recovery’ period as such. Maybe that’s why multiple orgasms inspire such trepidation; the possibility that she’s never fully satisfied is pretty intimidating. Time to face your fears.
1. Get her relaxed
Relaxation is crucial, and so is the environment. Clean sheets, good wine, and nothing else ahead but pleasure will help lead her along the path to repeated peaks. But your approach needs to be equally relaxed, more triathalon than sprint to the orgasmic finishing line. And that goes for both of you.
2. Reframe the ending
Her body’s used to reaching climax to a certain rhythm, so you need to head off muscle memory if you want her to ride multiple Os. Don’t ask her to resist orgasmic sensations, as that can stop her reaching her destination altogether. Better to stimulate her in different ways. Take the time to touch her body, and not just between her legs. Explore erogenous zones like her collar bone, the nape of her neck, her lower back, inside her knees, and her toes before you go to work on the guaranteed pleasure points.
3. The best, but different
For many women, multiple orgasm is possible only without oral or penetrative sex; researchers at the Kinsey Institute found that for some women vibrators alone are the key. Don’t be afraid to call up reinforcements if necessary. Try a G-spot stimulator like Lelo’s Gigi 2 (lelo.com) for an added inner thrill that reaches the parts you’ll struggle to hit. Then draft your tongue in too for a two-pronged attack that’ll have her begging to surrender.
4. Take her to the brink – then stop
It might sound counterintuitive, but taking her to the brink of orgasm without letting her climax is one of the best ways you can get her body to re-experience her orgasm. Try it four or five times before you ease her over the edge and she’ll experience a body-shuddering burst of pleasure.
In keeping with the habit-breaking ethos, give her the first O without you inside her. Concentrate on stimulating a different part of her anatomy every time you aim for another – G-spot, clitoris, nipples. The variety will encourage her to unleash another. Then all you need to do is accept her breathless thanks.